Man to Man: Faith, Fury and Fatherhood – Raising Men in a World Gone Mad

The world throws a lot at our young men. From confusing messages about masculinity to the pressures of achievement and the ever-present allure of instant gratification, it can be hard to know what it truly means to be a man of God in today’s world.

More Than Words: Fatherhood as a Living Example

But perhaps the most profound lessons are taught not through lectures or sermons, but through the quiet power of example. As the saying goes, “A father’s responsibility is not to make the child’s decisions, but to let the child watch him make his.”

This speaks to a profound truth about fatherhood – that it’s less about dictating the path and more about illuminating it. It’s about living a life that embodies the values we want our sons to embrace.

What does this look like in practice?

• Integrity in Action: It’s not enough to tell our sons to be honest and upright. They need to see us making difficult choices based on our faith, even when it costs us.
• Humility and Grace: We teach forgiveness by extending it, both to others and ourselves. Our sons learn to navigate conflict and disappointment by watching us do the same.
• Prioritizing Faith: Making time for prayer, Bible study, and church involvement demonstrates that our relationship with God is central, not an afterthought.
• Respectful Relationships: The way we treat our wives, our parents, and others shows our sons what genuine love and respect look like.
• Work Ethic and Responsibility: Whether in our careers or around the home, demonstrating diligence and commitment teaches the value of hard work and fulfilling obligations.

Beyond the ‘Do as I Say’

Of course, verbal guidance is important. But actions speak louder. When our sons see us living out our faith in tangible ways, it gives those words weight and meaning. They begin to understand that faith isn’t just a set of rules, but a way of life.

This isn’t to say we need to be perfect. We all stumble. But when we do, it’s an opportunity to model repentance and seeking forgiveness. This teaches our sons that it’s okay to make mistakes, but it’s crucial to own them and strive to do better.

Ultimately, fatherhood is about discipleship. It’s about guiding our sons towards a life that honors God and reflects His love. And sometimes, the most powerful way to do that is simply by letting them watch us live it.