LIMIT YOUR COUNSELORS! What Counselors and Life Coaches Won’t Often Tell You:

LIMIT YOUR COUNSELORS! What Counselors and Life Coaches Won’t Often Tell You:

Proverbs 11:14 says, “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.”

Yet, in scripture, we find the following glaring contradiction to the above. King Ahaziah, in scripture followed his chosen counselors, and his destiny became an abortion:

2 Chronicles 22:4 says, “his counselors became his ruin…”

So, which is it?

DO YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO LOOK LIKE YOUR COUNSELORS?

The truth is both verses above are true. It’s important to surround yourself with wise counselors, but you also need to be discerning in who you listen to. THEY CAN’T GIVE YOU WHAT THEY DON’T HAVE.

WHAT IS YOUR COUNSELOR’S AGENDA?

Not all counselors are created equal. Some may be more interested in their own agendas than in helping you. Christian counselors are particularly prone to do this as well. I’ve seen many Christian counselors who, in their advice, follow a third-rail agenda that has more about their opinions and religious thinking than actually helping you through your difficulty. When my late wife died, God instructed me to seek counseling and therapy to help me walk through the grief process. I was very disappointed to find so many counselors were more interested in flexing their therapeutic opinions than actually helping me deal with this devastating loss. Don’t be afraid to cut your losses and move on. God will bring you to the counselor who is the right fit. Use wisdom.

Here are some tips for choosing wise counselors:

I WANT YOU TO HAVE YOUR VERSION OF THE BREAKTHROUGH I WALK IN:

Look for people who are wiser than you. Counselors should be biblically literate, spiritually astute, and experienced in life, not just the academics that validate the credentials they hang on the wall. Look at their lives. They can’t give you what they don’t have or haven’t walked in. They should be able to offer you sound advice and help you grow. Look at their lives. Do you want your life to look like theirs? I always tell people that I want them to walk in THIER VERSION of the breakthrough in life I have walked in. For most people, this would be a major upgrade for them.

THE TRUTH HEARD THE FIRST TIME OFTEN BRINGS A NEGATIVE RESPONSE:

Look for people who are honest and trustworthy. They should be willing to tell you the truth, even if it’s not what you want to hear. Don’t expect to understand or agree initially with what your counselor tells you. Be willing to be challenged in your thinking and understanding. Look for people who speak from the Spirit of God and the scriptures and have your best interests at heart. Pay attention to their attitude. I know anointed men and women who should be filling stadiums for the power of God they walk in, but they are immature, mouthy, ego-trippers who turn people off and send them away hurting. Counselors should be genuinely concerned about your well-being and want to help you succeed.

YOU HAVE TO ACT, NOT JUST DRIFT TO THE NEXT COUNSELOR:

Once you’ve found some wise counselors, be sure to listen to them. Don’t just seek their advice; take it to heart. Jesus said the kingdom doesn’t come with observation. God told me years ago, “What I’ve already said to you is much more powerful in changing your life than what you are expecting Me to do or say further.” Many who come to me for counsel tend to expect me to simply put my stamp of approval on what they’ve already decided to do. This is a recipe for ongoing difficulty. Counseling is really about discipline and being discipled. You must be willing to walk out your situation with your counselor and vice versa.

DO YOU WANT TO GET BETTER?

Remember, your counselors can only help you if you’re willing to be helped. Be open to their advice and be willing to change your ways when necessary. Things are the way they are because of what you are doing. If you want something different, you must do something different. I have many associates and friends who can quote my teachings backward and forward and even take my courses, but after years and years, they absolutely refuse to implement those things in their lives. Thus, their lives, marriages, finances, etc., are still a mess – and they blindly refuse to see that their lack of action is their undoing.

REMEMBER – CHRIST IN YOU IS YOUR WISDOM (1 COR. 1:30,31)

Finally, don’t forget to pray for wisdom. God is a jealous God. Don’t look to man for what you should look to the Lord for. When I counsel people, my goal for them is to surpass my own experience in walking with God – not just being dependent on me or any other voice of counsel. God on the inside of you is the ultimate source of wisdom, and He can give you, without any other input, the guidance you need to make wise decisions.

Do you need counseling? Prophetic counseling is very different than what you’ve been exposed to in the past. Check out the link below. May God bless you with wisdom and discernment. 🙏

https://fathersheartministry.net/prophetic-counseling/